Caught in the Middle

Caught in the Middle
Custody Without Conflict

"Caught in the Middle: The Problem of Malicious and Vindictive Parents" - Jay Thomas, Ph.D. -Robert Jay Thomas, Ph.D., is a Psychologist in private practice in Salt Lake City

I.

Is there such a thing as "Parent Alienation Syndrome" (PAS)?

 

    Definition of terms: What it is; what it isn't

 

    What is the difference from "High conflict families of divorce"?

 

    Concerns about the diagnosis of PAS

II.

What side of the fence may your client be on? (from Philip M. Stahl, 1999)

 

    Unbalanced accounts of behavior-talking in extremes and absolutes

 

    Merging of feelings with the children

 

    Denial of the right of the other parent to have a relationship with the child

 

    Behaviors that directly and/or indirectly thwart the relationship between the child and the other parent

 

    Intrusive behaviors such as frequent phone calls (2-3 per day) to the other parent's home during visits

 

    Encouraging the children to act as spies during visits

 

    Informing the children about adult issues such as child support, reasons for the divorce

 

    Force the children to be messengers of communications

 

    Derogatory and blaming statements about the other parents

 

    Tribal warfare in which other family members or friends get brought into

 

III.

The attorney as therapist? The effects of saying or doing nothing or too much the battle

IV.

Possible scenarios

 

    What do you do if your client is a good guy?

 

    What do you do if your client is a bad guy?

V.

Books for parents

 

    Helping children copy with divorce, Edward Teyber, 2001

 

    Vicki Lansky's divorce book for parent's, Vicki Lansky, 2000

 

    Mom's house, dad's house, Isolina Ricci, 1997

 

    Parenting after divorce, Philip M. Stahl, 2000

 

    Helping your kids cope with divorce, M. Gary Neuman, 1998

 

Books when there is conflict

 

    Custody chaos, personal peace, Jeffrey P. Wittmann, 2001

 

    Divorce_ poison, Richard A. Warshak, 2001

 

    Divorce casualities: Protecting your children from. parental alienation, Douglas Darnall, 1998

 

Joint custody with a jerk, Julie A. Ross anad Judy Corcoran, 1996